So many questions have been asked of me recently that point to the fact that many people wish they had learned to play an instrument or had continued taking lessons.
I also discussed this topic with a friend about children who begin playing an instrument and then give up too soon on their instruments. Somehow, in their adulthood, they complete the words I wished I had…
Parents wishing their children would continue playing their instruments wonder why their children quit and give up on their instruments so early in the learning process. And they do not understand why it did not work out.
What was the problem? Why did they not enjoy practicing or playing?
Many factors can influence such decisions.
Sometimes, a particular instrument might not resonate with a child, and changing the instrument might be the answer. Changing instruments might be the right choice, but it is worth asking a child and making the appropriate adjustments. In these instances, that could be a path one can take.
My older daughter began playing cello when she was five and changed her instrument during her second year in high school. The demands of practicing two instruments at once got her into a situation where she had to choose. And she chose the trombone.
My younger daughter chose the clarinet after trying out the cello briefly.
Everything worked out beautifully, and she loved playing the instrument. She has won several competitions, and all has turned out quite well.
Changing the instrument may be one solution. And it can work out.
Also, different teachers, different settings, and different ways of dealing with music might be what that individual needs—introducing the child to different performers and attending concerts might be helpful.
A Parent mentioned that that her son started on the violin and stopped. I have heard these stories time and time again. Some of my friends have told me that they began playing the piano when they were young and, after a while, discontinued playing. They did not like to practice.
And there is a difference between practicing and playing an instrument. Someone might enjoy playing an instrument, especially in public, but might not enjoy practicing at home. Parents can help by listening to the needs of their children. In that case, perhaps the practicing routines should be observed so it is engaging for the child.
One crucial aspect is not to give up. Being patient might help a child to realize that they enjoy practicing and playing for others.
I was twelve when I made the decision that I wanted to become a cellist. I began practicing and discovered J.S. Bach, and his music influenced my decision to become a musician.
If music playing is different from what the child wants to spend their time doing, then there are many other things a child can be engaged in. For example, I know some children do pottery. How wonderful is that? Art takes on many shapes and forms—drawing, sculpture, and theatre.
It is essential to find a suitable medium for that child as well.
It is of great value to engage them in the right venue. And understanding where they want to place their energy is possible through listening and communication.
In the long run, the good news is that it is always possible to pick up an instrument as an adult and learn it.
Was there an instrument that you wanted to play as a child?
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